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Herbs for Heartbreak


“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

Days have passed since that heart-wrenching day, and you still haven’t slept through the night or eaten a decent meal. That same sad song has been on repeat for days now, becoming the only shoulder you want to lean on as tears fall. No way around it, but straight through the ugly shadows of ache without any comfort in sight.

It’s so easy to turn to fast, pharmaceutical solutions when the best answer is self-care. Fully surrendering to grief and allowing yourself to experience the transformation is essential to finding wholeness again. Luckily, herbs are here to help.


“Heart Be Well” Support Syrup Recipe

This is the perfect rejuvenating formula to support your health through grief. You can drizzle it over pancakes, ice cream, or just take it straight by the spoonful. It’s easy to make and tastes wonderful.



Combine herbs with cold water in a pot and bring to a boil. Reduce heat and allow herbs to simmer for 30 to 40 minutes. Remove from heat and mash the berries in the liquid mixture. Strain the herbs through cheesecloth and squeeze out the juice. Measure the liquid and add an equal amount of honey. Gently heat the honey and juice for a few minutes until well combined, but do not boil! Stir in brandy or tincture if you’d like and pour the finished syrup into sterilized glass bottles. Label and keep refrigerated for up to 6 months.


More Herbs for the Heart

There are plant allies growing all around us that support our whole being without causing harm. While herbs won’t make the sadness disappear, they will make the grieving process endurable – allowing you to transition to a stronger place, faster and healthier.

Valerian root (Valeriana officinalis) is a wonderful herb that promotes healthy relaxation and sleep*. I like to take 3 to 4 squirts of the tincture on occasional sleepless nights or sip on a cup of Fidnemed Nighttime Tea. Within minutes, I feel calm and well rested. This herb can be taken along with skullcap for helping quiet obsessive thoughts before bed. For some people, however, valerian can have the opposite effect, causing more worry and stimulation. If this happens to you, valerian is not the right herb to use and hops or skullcap may be a better alternative.

Hawthorn berries (Crataegus monogyna ) are recommended by the magnificent herbalist Rosemary Gladstar. Hawthorn supports healthy cardiovascular functioning*, so why not give it a chance? These berries have antioxidants and taste nice too. Take as a tincture, tea, syrup, or jam.  

Elder berries (Sambucus nigra) are beloved for recipe making and other herbal creations; they support healthy immune system functioning*. Also, they taste delicious and can be used as tea, tincture, or syrup.

Rosehips (Rosa spp) are the fruits produced by roses. They provide one of the highest concentrations of vitamin C in the plant world, even boasting levels many times higher than citrus fruit. They taste similar to tart cranberries, and they can be used in teas, syrups, and jam.

Some other herbs that can be helpful include Lemon Balm, Chamomile,  Borage, Eleuthero root, and Passionflower.

The most important thought to hold in your mind during times of change is that loss creates space in life for new possibilities. So hang in there with an open heart and a grateful spirit. Opportunity is just waiting to flow into your world.

Read about another way herbs are making a positive difference in the world.


*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. 



Topics: Herbalism


Written by Friends on August 27, 2012